Monday, December 06, 2010

My interpersonal encounters for 2010.

This post is less prim and proper as I
would have it so. Join me as I recount
the good encounters as well as the bad
ones. Reader discretion is advised as
I'll illustrate these lovely accounts will
utmost accuracy and honesty.

I've been working really hard at building
a strong rapport with Penny's family,
making up for my terrible mistakes.
And I'm really glad things are looking up!
It's a wonderful human feeling one would
desire to have, to be accepted as a family
member. It's a warm and comforting
feeling, really.

I had a rather unpleasant time arguing
over something really trivial on facebook
(yes, I know!). With Michael Lee, and
later Yeo. To be totally honest, I've
always thought of Michael Yeo as a really
nice guy but not the kind of friend you'll
be close to. Because I didn't felt that I was
to him so I kept my distance. And it was
strange because I also felt that Jerome was
a fragile, dangling line that kept us as
friends since junior college. Like without
Jerome, we wouldn't really hang out -
much less talk about anything near our
heart at all. But nonetheless, he is a nice
chap. A whole lot nicer than Lee. Lee,
however, has quite the class bully persona
who picks on the small guys, poking fun
at the dorks and stuff - you know, that
sort. He was an arrogant guy, anyone
could tell - by Yeo would like to believe
that it was just his pride to be blamed,
while I'd say that he lacks an important
respect for others, not just his friends.
He has a condescending attitude towards
my religion and that I cannot condone.
So this time, I'd posted something like:
Values education is more important than
just academic education, especially in
university. Something like that, and we
got into a whole heated argument. Well
I thought I had the prerogative to post
whatever I like on my wall and yes I also
agree that it was just foolish for us to be
arguing over something like that on
facebook. But I guess our so-called
friendship had to end there, because
we have never see eye-to-eye with each
other. What I find the most pitiful of all,
was Yeo's involvement. Like why did he
have to butt in with his two cents' worth?
It wasn't the first time that he had done
something like that for his lovely friend,
Lee. I think if anyone should place his
loyalty on a friend, that friend must be
one who deserves it. Maybe I'm not
worth it because I'm not in their league.
Maybe I'm just ostracised for my humble
background and my lack of an appreciation
for the 'high' culture. But let's get this
straight: at least I know as a matter of fact,
I am 21 and financially independent.

Friends come and go, so I'd say it's a kind
of good riddance when I'm done. Here
comes the good part. It's always exciting
to meet new people and make friends.
So tonight I'm really glad that Penny and I
had a really wonderful dinner with Genevieve
and Jiarong. I'm rather good at reading people
so I could tell that Jiarong is a really, really
nice guy. He's reliable, responsible and the
kind you would love to have around. So I'm
happy for Gen, because her former boyfriends
were far from desirable. Which also explains
why they've been together for 2 years plus.
After tonight, I really yearn for us to be
good friends. Yet, I'm always wondering if
feelings were mutual. For if one were to
advance too aggressively, the further might
be the distance between the two. So I'm
hoping that we could become close friends
in future.

I had also the good fortune to meet great
people during my short stint at Chung Cheng.
Jessie and all the other ladies at work were
really pleasant people to work with. Everyday
was a day to look forward to, apart from the
fantastic working hours and salary. And I do
miss the lovely people there. Hope things are
going well there!

We've come a long way now, and it'll be our
4th anniversary next March. Penny and I
have been through thousands of squabbles,
ups and downs, and we have emerged even
more and deeply in love. For two persons to
be together for so long, we have formed
many unspoken symbols and the bond is
simply incredible. We can even communicate
with our eyes. But of course, it hasn't been
that smooth-sailing but our relationship is
one that is constantly growing, building on
and on. Penny is my best friend and I
confide in her most. She's the only one who
holds most of my dirty little secrets and she's
always there for me. It does seem most likely
that I'd be marrying her. Haha but her mom
remains adamant about lowering her
expectations about us - my conjecture would
be that she fears disappointment in any event
that we won't end up together. Whatever it is,
Penny is my sanctuary and I'll always look to
her when in doubt. To me, it's been my good
fortune to have her exclusively by my side all
this while. Thank you, baby. I love you!

Jingsheng! I didn't just meet him this year,
but definitely got to know him a lot more.
I've always knew about his conscientious and
devotion towards his endeavours. But during
Vivant, I got a taste of his admirable personality.
He's always reliable in that you can always
count on him for anything. He's not a Superman,
but man enough to be there to help. My guess
is that he will be an important asset to Singapore's
future medicine and he'll make an excellent
doctor. I enjoy every single moment of
discussion with him and certainly look forward to
more of such treasured moments. He's the sort
of friend who makes me feel like I've known him
for a long time though we hardly have the
opportunities to meet up often. He's the sort you
would want to befriend lifetimes after lifetimes.

Yuan Rui has been a great buddy since BMT.
His optimism is infectious and his demeanour
lightens you up almost immediately. I'm glad
our friendship took an army hiatus and living
near each other certainly helped. Unlike
Kenneth, an almost childhood friend, Yuan
Rui takes the initiative to meet up at least.
Kenneth is just strange. He'd just disappeared
without a trace and I found myself one less
supper buddy(good news if I want to slim down).
I guess proximity sometimes makes a huge
difference. Being my neighbour for the past
decade or so, he moved several blocks away
and so did our friendship. Strange, isn't it.

YOG was an unforgettable experience too.
At least I got to know Pnelope and Vanessa
better. And got to know many new people.
I guess the deepest impression I left behind
in people's minds was one of a crazy ninja.
Though my rope dart stint ended with YOG,
I still feel the desire to continue exploring
what it seemed at the time, my new found
talent. But I know rejecting Xyn over and
over again will further dampen the chances.
And I can't stay 21 forever.
dimwit at 12/06/2010 10:34:00 PM